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The way most people talk about grief just skips the hard part
I sat in a support group last month where a woman said her husband died 8 months ago and she still hasn't cried. Everyone nodded politely. But nobody asked her what she actually feels instead. That moment stuck with me because we keep treating grief like a checklist you finish. You pass through denial, get to anger, then acceptance rolls in and you're done. But real grief doesn't work like that. It hits you sideways when you smell a specific soap or see a car that looks like theirs. We need to stop telling people they're doing grief wrong and start asking what it actually looks like for them. Has anyone else found that the books or advice about grieving don't match what you really went through?
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emery8792d ago
Read somewhere grief is love with nowhere to go - makes more sense than any checklist.
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oliviahenderson2d ago
Isn't that just the truth though? What do you do when all that love has nowhere else to go but sit inside you?
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